Sweeping clean

It doesn't seem that long ago since Anna was 7 and performing a ballet characterisation of Tom joins the Water babies at dance festivals. We loved watching her little feet move carefully and gracefully and always had our hearts in our mouths as she had to negotiate the change from chimney sweep to water baby whilst still dancing! Today I was reminded of those special times when Acorn came to sweep our chimney and the brush popped out of the pot on the roof, towards to sky. With a clean chimney we can now contemplate decorating the room.....

A ladybug and a new bike!

I have said many times how I am intrigued by the fabulous method of transport in Holland, aka fiets! Daphne has bought a second hand 'BAKFIET', and it looks brilliant. It seems all young families use these useful and cool bikes, as when we go to visit we never fail to be mesmerised as a parent and up to four children whiz by. Love it. I can't wait to try to manoeuvre it next time we go to Scheveningen, but that may be a little too tricky! Minnie and Quentin will enjoy I am sure... Image

And the little ladybug. A Dutch ladybird. James sent me this pic to demonstrate how good his new iPhone's camera is, but I loved the fact that I could see Minnie's little pink Ugg boots in the background. Wish you lived nearer to us M and Q....

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England in Spring..time for a fresh start?

Image I've been contemplating changing from Posterous to Wordpress for some time. So it's March 2012 and the Spring is almost here...what better time to change? Not so sure. Some of the platform features are easier, some more difficult but I will just take my time and work through. I make take up the offer of a kindly Twitter friend @RR_Photo, who has expertise in WP.

Just had a great one to one at the Mac store in the Trafford Centre, Manchester. I can now integrate movies into my Keynote presentation..and may even use my iPhone to control the slides! Lot's to think about.

So back to Wordpress, or should I go to bed.....

Starting over, living life and the colours of India

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We have just got back home from seeing a fabulous movie...The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel. We laughed and cried and enjoyed the feast of colours that India brings when eyes rest upon it.

For me, the moral of the story was that no matter how old you are, it's never too late to be happy. To start over. To live life. The film is definately worth watching (especially for my age group). As well as relishing the acting skills of the veteran cast, the film made us want to go to India.

My sister Anne and her (and our) good friend Sheila love India, and visit every year to holiday and to help communities in various ways. Anna my daughter went to Ludhiana in India for her elective placement when she was training to be a midwife, and the memories she made are frequently recounted.

We will ever get there? I hope so. 

Photo courtesy of Copyright © 2008 India-4U.com

Champagne breakfast and rooftop fiz

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We went off to Edinburgh for the weekend to see Colette and Peter, and we knew we'd be in for a treat as soon as we collected Andrena and Bill from their home in Waddington as morning broke on Friday. Andrena had made a feast, a REAL feast for breakfast...and the train had hardly left the station before the first bottle of fiz was popped open! And it was only 8.30 in the morning. Oh dear. Three empty bottles by the time we reached Waverely St Station.

The next 3 days were great fun, diamonds were checked out (not by me I might add), we dined at Le Monde on George St, relaxed at the Sheraton Hotel Spa (luxury of a different kind), danced until dawn with Colette's wonderful friends, and finished with an exclusive Sunday lunch in Harvey Nicks rooftop restaurant, overlooking Edinburgh Castle. 

As the train left the station for home, I wished I was staying a little longer in this magical, historic city.

Colette and Peter, what wonderful hosts you are!

Real nappies, washing lines and Henry V111

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With Anna and Garry's baby due at the beginning of July, Olivia washed the 'real' nappies we bought her in preparation. This fabulous photo was taken as they dried on her washing line, and she whatsapped it to me. I had a great big smile when I saw it.

I remember as though it were yesterday soaking (in Napisan) nappies in a bucket after removing the soiled liner, and washing the white terry squares on a boil wash before proudly hanging them on the line, whatever the weather! I actually loved it. Even when I had two children in them, I enjoyed the process of making them clean again, folding them in different (and innovative) ways and snuggling them next to my little one's skin. What pleasure!

I remember Mum giving me the impression that using disposable nappies was a sign of a 'bad mother', but not sure if she really meant that? In any case, I succumbed to disposables when Olivia my fourth child was born, and although it was easier, I didn't get the same satisfaction at nappy change time.

And we know that real nappies are much better for the environment. Apparently, if King Henry V111 had had disposable nappies, they would still be around 'rotting' today.

And that is appalling.  

 

A springer spaniel weekend

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My daughter's two dogs needed to be cared for this weekend, and I was in charge. Pip and Charlie are springer spaniels and I have to say they are too cute. It may seem normal to be raving about hounds, but those who really know me well are either laughing or in shock. You see I have never been a 'doggy' person, until I fell in love with these two.

So, I have walked them for miles and miles, through goarse and swamp land, round resevoirs and over the beautiful Pendle Hill with Yvonne and Rosie, and Gill and Meg. These energetic puppies are just so full of energy and affection, and we have enjoyed every minute of our time together. So strange for me, I now even talk to them.

Oh, and what a delicious meal we had last evening. The best Chinese meal ever at Yu and You. No wonder they won Gordan Ramsey's 'Best Chinese Restaurant' award 2010. Wonderfully delicious.

All in a week: a visitor from Scotland, Ben's Playtime, a spa in the city and the Calendar Girls.....

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It seems so long ago that fabulous Colette arrived to spend a night with us, but it's only a week. Colette drove from Edinburgh and we immediatley slipped into the country to sip champagne. We went to Eaves Hall  to be disappointed as the venue is now open for weddings only! So off to Mitton Hall we went and we happily settled by the roaring fire. Not ususal for a weekday night, but what a fabulous evening, chatting and eating. Being a great positive thinker, Colette gave us lots to ponder on and she brightened our week in so many ways. Hilary invited us once more to Ben's Playtime on Thursday night at Benedicts in Whalley. A great opportunity to catch up with Frank and Lynne, but we partied a little too heavily and it took it's toll. What a great night though. I met a woman who lived near me as a child and we shared lots of memories. We danced and laughed and staggered home at 12.30-although the event finished at 9pm! F and L have an interesting story to tell about the way home.....

On Friday we set of to Kirkby Lonsdale, to enjoy a weekend with Gill and Mark. We had a blast. On Monday I was up and out of the house to catch the 07.46 train to Manchester, to meet with my lovely friend Debbie for a spa day at the MacDonalds hotel. Luxurious surroundings and much needed treatments were enjoyed by us both while we caught up on news and planned a new venture. On Tuesday I caught my breath.

Today, a week after Colette arrived, I was lucky enough to attend a charity dinner back at Mitton Hall, for MacMillan cancer support. Two of the Calendar Girls (Ros and Angela) gave an absolutely inspirational talk about their unique venture and my sisters Eileen and Anne and I were spellbound. We loved them. And I was lucky enough to be sat next to Jennie from Downham who coincidentally knows Emma Lee-Potter -in fact she lives in Emma's old house. It was so good that we could chat about our mutual appreciation of Emma's interesting blog...The House with No Name. What a small world.

And now I am in bed exhausted, but not too tired to watch the Calendar Girls movie...I only hope my eyes will stay open.

Kirkby Lonsdale and special people

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It was literally by the skin of our teeth that we managed to book Rye Meadows for a weekend away with Gill and Mark. It was a belated silver wedding celebration, and how fabulously lucky we were. Gill is a teacher and wanted to go away at half term, so as we frantically tried to find vacancies our spirits took a dive; everyone else seemed to want this weekend too!

And then we stumbled accross a gem of a place just outside Kirkby Lonsdale. The apartment was everything and more that we could have possibly hoped for. It was modern, light, and perfectly kitted out with everything from chocolates, wine, fluffy pillows and spectaculor views of the Lune Valley. We couldn't believe it! And a perfect two nights and two days was to follow.....sheer bliss. Gill and Mark are special people. Mark is Paul's younger brother and Gill my extraordinary SiL (Sister-in-Law), and I couldn't have chosen a better one!! We walked and talked and ate and drank....saw the wonders of the sunny Yorkshire countryside from our temporary dwelling and whilst rambling over the hills from Settle to Long Preston on the way home. The walk into the historic market town of Kirkby Lonsdale was worth it; we bought a cheese board and new boots, and enjoyed (not) the company of Alan in the famous Royal Hotel. Oh dear! The quiz is still not complete! We made lots of memories didn't we? And we most certainly will be back!

A cat and Karl Marx

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Liz and Wad and Paul and I spent our last morning together at Highgate Cemetry (East). The famous burial ground is not far from Julie and Chris's house, so we walked there and back before setting off for home. After a little fuss from PB about the entrance fee, we entered the Victorian graveyard that received it's first body (that of a 16 year old baker's daughter) in 1860. During the year I studied as a PhD student I was instructed on the teachings of Karl Marx, also buried here. Being a history teacher, Wad offered his account of Marx's life, which was far more animated and interesting than my philosophy class! He told us...

Karl Marx was a German 'thinker' and was influenced by Russian peasants and their rough deal in life. He believed that religion was used by the wealthy and elite to control the poor. He challenged capitalism and encouraged the manual workers of the world to participate in violent uprisings to change things. Marx had to leave his native land and he came to England. After visitng Salford he wrote 'Das Kapital'. He was interred at Highgate with his wife and grandchildren, alongside so many other famous individuals. Marx could never have predicted the longevity of his mark on our world.
I always find graveyards interesting. Not because I have a warped or morbid interest in death, but because I like to think that life is utterly meaningful and that each unique person's contribution should be remembered. We all pondered on various epitaphs, names, sculptures, photographs and messages. How fragile we all are. It was very cold in the graveyard, icy underfoot from the remains of the snow. We noticed a smart dark-haired distinguished looking gentleman walking down the main path with a Harrods bag and a bunch of flowers. He was on his way to tend to a grave, we could sense that, and the grave we were to discover was his son's. As we passed by we caught his eye and I bid him good morning. The grave he was lovingly caring for was full of flowers and plants, and there was an impressive red rose heart shaped flower arrangment in the middle of the grave with a sash saying 'Happy Birthday Son'. I commented that the flowers were beautiful. The man looked at me with sad brown eyes and said, 'well they are for my beautiful son, he deserves them'. I couldn't hold back the tears as I walked away. The grip of grief was evident in so many ways. The black and white cat stayed close by all the way round. We noticed him about a half way and although he wouldn't respond to my attempts to stroke him, he walked when we walked and stopped and rested as we took in some of the more interesting engravings. Obviously well cared for, I imagine this little animal has a lot of visitors....maybe some of a different world?

More bikes, and more snow

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We walked and talked from our hotel to the town centre, all of us admiring the snow covered sites. The sky was blue, but it was SO COLD! One of the outdoor thermometers told us it was -8 but it felt much colder than that.....The fountain was frozen, and so were the bikes at Tilburg station.

James had joined us for coffee and love cake at Mugs and Muffins, and now we were off to Den Bosch for a spot of site seeing, on the recommendation of the lovely Anne. Liz and Wad were totally impressed at the number of bikes locked up at the station. This is a regular site at Dutch train stations, and I remembered vividly the first time I saw so many fliets together. Impressive eh?

We love Dutch bikes, and this fabulous way of travel.

Tilburg, snow and loud music....

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It took us three hours (instead of 90 minutes) to get to Tiburg by car. The snow was falling thick and fast and the roads were treacherous to say the least. Paul drove steadily and Wad navigated carefully. I carried on knitting and reading and listening to the marvellous tails of Liz! We arrived safe and sound, and after a short time to refresh we set off in search of food, and James Byrom! While ' resting' we marvelled at the cyclist....just as in Holland...continuing to cycle even in the blizzards. The cars were few, but the bikes kept on coming.

 

James now works in Tilburg at LIVE, so we were going to catch him playing. But first we met up with him and enjoyed an 'eat as much as you can' Japanese meal. Remember going there with you Gill and Mark? The atmostphere in the town was great, the lights reflected on the newly fallen snow perfectly, and we thoroughly enjoyed the strolling around. We arrived at LIVE around 10.30 just in time to hear Jim play, and we met (and heard) the new guy from Bolton (!) and Paul and Wad even had a dance! Great fun....even at our old age. 

 

Minnie and Quentin

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Every time we come back to Holland Minnie and Quentin are just as happy to see us as we are them. It's amazing that the little ones have such great memories and huge capacity to love. Their small arms around our necks seem to belong there, and we enjoy each second. How they grow! Minnie is forever confident, she entered (and won!) the X Factor children's talent show so graciously. Quentin continues to be gentle and pensive, with a great sense of fun! He's not as keen as his big sister on the thespian activities though. 

Both children try their best to speak English to us which is so wonderful to hear. And I keep trying to improve my Dutch. Well, sort of!

We went into school with Minnie one morning and sat with her at her desk as she drew us a picture to take home to England. What a moment it was. Minnie you are such a clever girl! Quentin, happy and lovely as ever cyled round the payground of his nursery school as we watched from afar. 

It can't be so long before we are back to feel those arms again......

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Dutch Pea Soup! (and the birds)

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A bit like the San Franciscian chouder, the soup came served in bread. A full (though small) brown loaf contained the pea soup that arrived on the table in front of me following James' recomendation. It was scrumptious, though slightly overfacing.... The dilemna came when the soup was eaten and I wanted to take the empty 'vessel' home with me, and James didn't agree. You can't do that! he declared.

But taking it home (and his empty loaf too) was exactly what I was going to do. And we did. We carried it out of the cafe in one of Liz's cloth bags, and after collecting her from school the lovely Minnie fed the birds (ducks, swans and seagulls) with the help of beautiful little Quentin, at the end of their street. I believe the creatures thought it was their birthday, the bread was fresh, tasty, and soaked with pea soup. But the food was mostly enjoyed by Minnie; she thought is was far to good to throw to the towards the open beaks!

Anyway, the delicious meal was well and truely shared. 

Scheveningen in the sun and cold

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We couldn't have wished for better weather, and Liz got to use her luxuriously warm duvet coat, much to Wad's disgust. Great walking along to beach, though Quentin was eventually too cold and we had to retreat into the warmth of the exposition building developed to inform folks of the ongoing improvements in the resort. We stayed at the Doll's House, thanks to the gracious generousity of Ilse, who moved out once more to allow us warmth and comfort of the Fisherman's cottage. Liz and Wad stayed with James, after a small cleaning exercise and in the end all was good. Ilse cooked us a deliciously authentic Indian meal on the first evening, and James made us welcome on the second night with an amazing vegetarian Italian dinner. Yum. Whilst we relished the pleasures of our beautiful grandchildren in the next few days, Liz and Wadd visitied the famous Royal Picture Gallery Gallery in the Hague  Mauritshuis, and the Anne Frank House in Amsterdam. They had a ball, and us too!

Then the snow came. On to Tilburg.

White Wickets

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Cathy and Rob moved here in 2011. My lovely niece and her husband Rob have set up their new home in the Sussex countryside, and visiting them was a great pleasure…to say the least. I can't help thinking of Lynne, my dear sister (and Cathy's Mum) who died nearly 30 years ago, and how proud she would be of her girls. Cathy misses her Mum dreadfully, as we all do, but she certainly has lots of Lynne's passions and drive for the best things in life! 

Robert, Patrick and Tom it was so good to see you, and thanks for making us welcome. White Wickets is a area, and so are you.
We'll be back; and Paul will have his tennis court paint brush! 

Call the Midwife and Normal Birth

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Watching Call the Midwife on TV on a Sunday evening I feel totally overwhelmed and on the verge of tears with many of the scenes. How proud I am to be part of the midwifery profession when I watch Jenny and her friends at work. I can see young Jennifer as she grows to understand how special her job is and the complexities of life. The poverty, abuse and hopelessness some of the women in her care cope with on a daily basis is shocking and almost repulsive to her at first, but then she learns to admire and love the same women for being 'heroes'. What a fine message to us all. I am imagine most of the viewers of the programme (of which there are many) will feel the same shock horror at some of the situations and environments the midwives find themselves in. But as a modern day midwife, I know not much has changed. Yes indeed, in 2012 the poverty, abuse and hopelessness remains the same in for many women, and for some circumstances are far worse than in the 1950s. They are just better hidden. I would need another page to detail what I mean.

The programme does justice to the challenging but exhilarating and rewarding work of midwives, and childbearing women appear to 'get on with it'! It is refreshing to see women believing in themselves as having the ability and strength to birth their babies, and it was normal for the event to happen at home. For those of us who have witnessed the utter joy of childbirth both from a mother's and midwife's perspective, the programme helps to re-affirm the wonders of women. 

Babies were mostly born at home in the 1950's as there weren't enough hospital beds and birth was firmly part of the community. And now the pendulum has swung the other way, with a constant quest to reduce intervention in maternity care and promote ‘normal’ birth. The debate is clear and the pressure is on. And the situation in the UK isn’t as grave as elsewhere….

On the other side of the world where my lovely son Tom is travelling and where my niece Claire practises as a midwife, there are deeper concerns that are influenced by private obstetric practice. This is Australia, and Hannah Dahlen gives her stance on the problem.  This crisis is replicated in other developed countries and is shocking.

So as I keep my mind on becoming the Chair of the Campaign for Normal Birth at the Royal College of Midwives, I will be thankful for the NHS and for my passionate midwifery colleagues, and will remember Jennifer Worth’s midwifery days  always.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

27,000 copies, an engagement and an award....

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There has been a huge amount of activity since NYE in Edinburgh. A bit much really (my bits anyway)....which sounds ungrateful and a bit of a cliche, but working for the NHS for 35 years has bound to have an effect.

So here's the news:

A couple of months ago I recieved a letter from the Cabinet Office...'The Prime Minister would like to submit your name to the Queen....' My reaction was dramatic. I was always the one who nominated others...this couldn't be true. And although Paul would argue to the contrary, I never feel like I am doing anything different to so many others. So this was a huge shock....The revelation of who nominated me came shortly afterwards, and then there was a lot of excitement. But I was sworn to secrecy! Then, the day before New Years Eve in 2011, I recieved a call from the Lancashire Evening Telegraph whilst shopping in John Lewis, in the Scottish city. 'What do you think of recieving such an honour?' Robert asked me. Oh dear.....the cat was out of the bag.

The Times gave the details of the honours list, and there it was, my name. Then the celebrations began with my sisters and their husbands, and special friends Frank and Lynne. A week later I am still overawed. I still don't feel worthy and I can't tell my friends even, so some of them don't know...even though the local press have been proactive. The FRONT PAGE OF THE CLITHEROE ADVERTISER  made sure the local got the message, and the ROYAL COLLEGE OF MIDWIVES informed the midwives....same photo! Oh dear... 

And Anna and Garry got engaged! This phone call promoted a repeat of the celebrations on New Years day; we were all thrilled. Apparently Gazzer used a ring from a cracker to propose, and after the real ring was purchased Anna sent me photos of the two exhibits to see if I could tell which was the real one. I didn't dare. Congratulations to the special couple!

And my book is selling like hot cakes, on the 5th January just 42 days after publication, the sales figure reached 27,136! Unimaginable. I NEVER expected such a response, not in my wildest dreams. But more than the number of books sold is the response from readers. I recieve at least 4-5 contacts every day either by direct email, Twitter or Facebook and of course the odd snail mail! The messages are so charged with emotion for different reasons, and it makes me feel that the whole excercise has been worthwhile. I have had a visit from Joan, a local woman who turned up on my doorstep. Over a cup of tea in my kitchen she told me how she'd seen my book advertised in a Weight Watchers magazine, and bought it. Then her daughter who was holidaying in Australia emailed her and attached a photograph of herself and her little family by the Opera House in Sydney. She explained to her Mum that the photo had been taken by an English woman was passing by, who was in Sydney as she was speaking at a midwifery conference. That was me. I had told the young woman after photographing her that I lived in Whalley, and as her Mum did too we bagan share other things that we had in common. So Jean put two and two together, looked me up in the phone book and came to call..... It's been an adventure every day. Charlotte Ward, I never expected it to be like this at all....

 

Between the years

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We arrived at No1 Grovesnor Cresent Edinburgh around 4pm yesterday, and really had a glimpse of future living. My nephew's company's luxury apartment is spectacularly decked out...and as we marvelled at the place that is to be our living quarters for the next week, we had to fathom out how to survive. The light switches baffled us beyond belief even though the instructions had been given to my sister....'double click the pad twice'...which pad? There seems to be several in each room that stay illuminated all night, which does aid visibility but hinders sleep! Basic actions like switching a light on and off needs serious concentration and patience....I consider myself quite 'techy' but the computerised control panel on the living room wall (which incidentally appears to provide a weather forcast and access to emails!!) is of Star Wars standard. Whilst the men searched for a home for the car, we decided on a cuppa..but another challenge lay ahead...the kettle didn't fit under the tap? The correct tap was discovered later. 'Finding the Cutlery Drawer' was the next game and lasted 10 minutes....we has no clues! Then my nephew telephoned and we recounted our trials with lots of laughter. 'Have you seen the extractor fan for the hob?' he enquiried. He talked me through it. A panel to the rear of the appliance was identified and the appropriate button pressed, and like a rising submarine the fan emerged from the work surface (as I looked at the ceiling above)....although it could've been mistaken for a flat screen TV! So, between 2011 and 2012 we are introduced to a new age...a sign of things to come.